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Right now I'm a little confused in things that are going on with this girl that I met. Ok it all started when I picked her up as a favor of a friend of mine. We talked, we laughed, her smile was breathtaking. Well I asked her for her phone and she gave it to me on a wednesday and I called her on Saturday she told me she was waiting for my call on Friday.To me that was a great sign cause later her friend told me that she was happy and would talk about me 24/7. We started dating went out in a couple of places like Movies, Mini Golf, Go cars all that cool fun stuff. Everything was going great she'll talk about me to her friends, and at her work.Then like in the 2 week I decided to take her to eat at a restaurant and gave her 2 roses, of course I did not wan't to rush thing up. The reason I did it was because I wanted to let her know that I liked her and was interested in her. After that everything went crazy. I wanted to talk to her so I got my chance yesterday I was at her friends apartment and they were doing a cookout and they invited me to eat she of course was acting strange she would not talk to me that much and I knew she wasn't herself later I decided to leave cause I thought I interupted a girl's night. I went out to my apartment and I guess her friends got mad at her cause how she was not talking to me. So when I came back to gave a one of my friends a CD she was leaving and I kind of thought it was my fault all along that I interupted her girl's night so I felt bad and followed her and that's when we talked. She was telling me that she left because of other things and it wasn't because I interupted the girl's night out. Then I talked about the rose that I gave her and told her what I meant by it. I forgot that roses have a meaning for every color, I told her that I was a guy and we do stupid stuff like that and I apologize but now I've learned from my mistake. Then we talked some more and then she told me that there's thing that I don't know about her and I said that I was a good listener and that I let her know that I'll always have some time for her to hear her, even if it's at 2am and she want's me to go to her apartment I will come. Anytime that she needs me I'll be there. And I told her that I wanted to see a smile out of her face that special smile that I've known. She smiled and we kept on talking. Then she told me the that she had someone in her life and that kind of squashed my soul I thought I was dead I couldn't believe what I heard. After that I kind of left her alone and left. Then I started thinking all night of all the things we did togheter. And why this and why that. Like if she had someone why she gave me her phone number,why was she waiting for my call desperetly,why would she talk about me 24/7 when she had someone,why did she bought herself a watch that I chose for her,why? This things I tought all night it was driving me crazy why? you may ask cause I started feeling something that I've never felt me whole life, I felt I was alive,she made me be a better man, just be hearing her voice on the phone made all my problems go away. That's how special she is to me. And I know that she felt the same way too just by seeing her smile. When I see her smile I see everything that I meant to her. That night when we talked I saw in her face that she was confused and I was sad too because I don't want to see her sad. Well I guess that the phrase You can never have what you want it's true. Right now I just don't know what to do she told me that we can still be friends and then her friends tells me not to give up try to conquer her hearth. At this point I dont' know what to. Any advice would really help. Thanks
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It takes two to tango so to speak. All you can do is tell this girl how you feel. It is then up to her to decide if she wants to pursue a relationship with you. I guess I would have to question her motives with you. You told me she was already in a relationship with another man. What is she doing going out with you? Love is based on trust. Based on what I am hearing, I would have a hard time trusting her, based on her actions. Unfortunately I am only hearing one side of the story, for I have not heard her side. Maybe she just wants to be friends with you. Though based on what her friends said to you, it sounds like she is at this moment confused.
I would let her sort out her life. You should get on with your life without her. There are lots of lovely ladies in the world who will appreciate you for the caring, sensitive loving man that you appear to be by the note you have written me.
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Paul Mauchline
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