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Hi!
it's the first time I write 2 u and I haven't yet understood if this is the way to post a question on which I would like a piece of advice.Anyway,I hope I'm sending this 2 the right place :-). Well,I've been dating my girl for about a month now(we r both 18) but whenever it comes 2 sex I'm afraid that my inexperience is really obvious 2 her and I don't know what I can do about it.You see,she's no sex expert but she had this relationship with this older guy for about 2 years and she's learnt quite a lot if you know what I mean...I,on the other hand,have only had a few times sex and I'm really embarassed to say that it was no other than paid one.Anyway,my fear lies on the fact that she is more experienced than I am and although I really(and she) want to have sex with her(me),I'm afraid of her reaction 2 my inexperience.Also,I was wondering if the fact that I'm her age and not as experienced as she would probably want me 2 b ,could change her feelings about me(which I want 2 believe r more than positive). I would really appreciate any piece of advice that could help me overcome this more of self-confidence and insecurity problem.I really like her and she's hasn't been oppressive at all but I'm afraid of what she will surely think one day if she sees me avoiding this type of conversation all the time and of course of her reaction. Do you believe that I should go ahead and tell it to her? Plz help me!
Thank you in advance!!!
p.s.Forgive my english.I'm greek but I'm doing my best...:-)
thank u!
 

Loving relationships are built based on one key factor -- Communication.
 
You need to communicate your feelings of fear and insecurity to your lady. Don't assume that your lady knows everything about sexual intimacy because of her prior relationship with an older man. Talk to her honestly and learn together how to please one another sexually. Have fun and use your imagination. Intercourse is only one way of being intimate with one another. Touching, kissing, extended foreplay, oral sex, erotic talk, using oils and gels can also achieve sexual satisfaction. There are many books and resources like my web site to assist you.
 
Be honest, and get over your fears. Practice makes perfect, and above all have fun.
 
Paul Mauchline,
The Art of Loving Institute
 
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