 |
 |
 |
|
Art of Loving Advice My wife's mother is 61 years old and has had the worst luck with the men in her life. First marriage, her legit father commited adultry and divorced when my wife was 4 years old....Second marraige, married a man who had four children in a previous marraige, while my mother-in-law had 3 of her own.Raised 7 children in their household til the kids where in high school, and finally divorced due to her finally getting tired of the way she had been treated after 10 years of marriage!!!! Then she married for the third time, a high school teacher she met while working at the same school.. He was 7 years younger than her!!! He was an alcoholic and committed suicide after a couple years of marriage!!! Then her 1st husband came back into her life without a dime in his pocket after 15 years!!!She took him in and lived with him for the rest of his life, but they never remarried.....He ended up dying of cancer at an early age of 52.......Now 7 years of not dating she meets a male at her work!!! She is 61 years old now and the male she is "interested" in is at the age of 43???? What shocks me the most is that all her life she complains about how the men in her life , she was the one at all times taking care of them and that she was looking for a man to finally take care of her... A man that was financially well off and that could take her in for a change!!! Right ? ...Well what does she do, she takes in a stranger , with alot of access luggage, 2 marriages, going through a divorce right now, not a pot to piss in, on depressant medication and saying that he loves her and wants to give his soul to her???? And ideally she got herself right back where she was with her previous marriages... She said she would not live with him? he's staying with her on weekend!!!! She is literally supporting him , he has no car, and he is now living with his mother because he cant afford to live on his own!!!! My mother-in-law is about to retire in 3 or 4 years and finally enjoy her life and yet she is involved with a man who doesnt have his act together at the age of 43???? My wife is concerned and quite shocked, the age difference is a key factor and the fact that this guy has nothing to offer my mother-in-law but companion and sex!!!! Im confused...Im having a tough time accepting this relationship, yet mom-in-law doesnt seem to have a problem with this??? She is old enough to be his mother??? My mother-in-law has a son at 39 yrs.old and a son at 37 years old.. My wife will be 36 years old in aug.....I dont believe marriage is out of the question even though she might deny it now....Is there any advice you can pass on because we are totally confused and concerned deeply about this situation Thank you for your time Help sincerely...cls |
 You and your wife as much as you care for Mom should just mind your business. Life is about choices. If she chooses to take in broken down men -- that is her business. None of us are here to judge another person. If Mom keeps complaining to you, I would suggest she see a therapist or a counsellor to sort out her problems. I would also suggest that if she brings up the subject of the losers she has had in her life, that you tell her we are not interested in hearing about these problems unless she gets pro-active and starts making some changes in her life. |
 |
|
|
|||
