Art of Loving Advice
Question:
I am 20 and a single parent. I became friends with a gentleman and we
took our relationship past the friendship level when me and him got
intimate. But unfortunately we never decided to become a couple. We
treated each other as if we were together. When thinks got rough I ran
to other people and so did he. Now he wants a committed relationship
which is what I wanted from the jump but was to scared to tell him. Then
everything hit the fan and now he does not want to be with me or so he
says because I talked to other people besides him when at the time he
was doing the same thing. He is someone I really care about but I don't
know if I should just let him be or push the issue. I am hoping he can
leave things in the past just as I have done to him for the things that
he has done to me that hurt me. Well I am very confused on whether or
not I should be with him or not
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Communication is the key to a loving relationship. It would appear that you have both learnt that from your experience together. My advice to you is to go with your heart --- go with no expectations -- for expectations bring hurtful disappointments. If you truly love this man, then tell him so. Sit him down, hold his hands, look into his eyes and tell him honestly how you feel. Ask for a fresh start, and leave the past behind -- where it belongs. If he still does not want to be with you -- at least you can move forward in your life without any doubts. The lessons you have learnt will help you for your next relationship when you truly find the one for you.
One last parting comment -- there is only room for love in your life -- there is no room for fear.
Paul Mauchline,
The Art of Loving Institute
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