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I have a real big problem i was wondering if you could helpplease. these
problems are really getting me down and iv read you web page and your advise
is really good.The thing is its about my husband we'v been married for 4
months and the thing with husband is he has completely changed then he was at
first,now i dont know what to do ,he never pays that much attention to me,if
iwe have a problem he wont talk properly and when he does say somthing he
blames it all on me,and say if i say anything to him he;ll listen then he
will get it out ofthe other ear,cause of that we argue all the time. he wont
listen to me ,he doesnt take me out very much.and every time he comes back
from work hell never spend much time with me hell just go to sleep.I tell
hime to do exersice he wont do that eithe im worried for him cause hes
getting very unhealthy.He is not romantic he even admits that,but i dont know
what to do to make hime aware of what he does.He says that his parents are
more than me and he listrns to them and his family even though there
wrong,he listens to them staight away than me,and that really enoyes me ,we
make love by night and he changes in the morning.when we have fights he says
the most horrible things to me ever he says i dont love you .but aftre wards
he says he ddoes but deep inside i know he does not,how do i make him love
me.he's really oldfashioned and tells me not to wear this but i half maige to
persuade him.but after wards well have a fight and hell say his way ,but
when i say somthing hell never listen to me. really confused with him but i
want this to work if anything big happens like a fight he go and tell my
parents and his and the next thing the whole world knows.and that really
enoyes me cause i'll get all the doings and they wont look at any thing whet
i say .I get wronged cause im a girl thats how they and he sees it.he doesnt
buy me gifts very much and if he does threr very cheap and i say is that all
im worth to you.please help me what shall i do.
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You have many serious relationship issues for only being married 4 months. I strongly recommend you seek professional help, and engage the assistance of a therapist or counsellor.
You need to have a serious talk with your husband about how you are feeling. You need to work together to get your relationship on track, or end it. Based on what you are telling me --- this is totally unacceptable behaviour on the part of your husband.
Get busy and get some help. I would not tolerate this any longer.
Paul Mauchline,
The Art of Loving Institute
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