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Hi. I need some advice. I am a 32 yr old male who has never had a relationship. I didn't have a girlfriend in high school and after HS fell for a girl who had no interest in me.
I took it pretty hard. Since then (12 years) I never made an effort to approach anyone and have actively pushed girls away from me. 6 weeks ago I finally found it in me to change but I'm finding it hard to meet anyone. My big problem is that I am having a hard time because I can't seem to make any effort in a girl that I have no interest in.
I know this is going to sound juvenile, but should I date someone that I have no interest in hoping I will develop some feelings for them? There are some girls I know who are interested in me but I don't want to lead them on. Am I expecting too much too soon? I recently found someone I'm interested in but it's one sided and I don't want this to affect me. Should I just date these girls and gain some experience or keep looking until I find someone I'm interested in who in turn is interested in me.
I know this request sounds ridiculous but I really would appreciate some help with this. Thank You..........B
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Get over your past hurts. Friend -- you have missed 12 years of living and having fun with the opposite sex. Start dating, and just have fun. If you find yourself attracted to someone, and the feeling is not mutual -- move on!!! Stop being so serious about finding the one for you. When you least expect it, the right woman will come into your life.
I would encourage you to revisit my site. There are many articles that you will find helpful.
Paul Mauchline,
The Art of Loving Institute
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