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I'm desperate because you can't help me, but as you suggested me I'll try to write you my problem in only few paragraphs (but please somehow also try to refer to the last mail I gave with the subject "help me to feel serenity"). Note: If you are going to put this mail on your web site, copy only the part that begins now from the next sentences in the next line>
A month and a half ago I suffered through a critical depression caused by fear of my past and exaggerating of the things that were stressing me out. I'm in a wonderful relationship with a wonderful girlfriend and the biggest fear was of that I could lose her if I confess her all my fear, or reasons of fear, or things that would hurt her. The depression and long irrational thinking was a consequence of those unstoppable fears. I've managed to overcome few of these fears but now my main problem is that my passion and libido are in very critical status and I'm afraid can it be normal again for me, will I be able to feel all the beauty of love and life. I'm also frustrated that I've practically killed with my depression a will to set in the bed or chair and to think about all the possibilities, fantasies and all the positive things, because I'm too occupied with my negative thoughts. Actually I badly want to do such a things, to think about how life is beautiful and how I have nothing to worry about, but I can't. Please tell me what should I expect after this depression concerning my passion. I'm also frustrated because instead of thinking of something positive or just enjoying a presence of my girlfriend, I'm always keeping on my mind (against my will) that there is something wrong about me. Please advise me...Thank you
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Depression is a serious matter. As I stated in my last email -- you need professional help to overcome your fears and negative thoughts. One on - one help is what you need -- not email advice. I cannot deal with all your issues through this venue. It would appear you have a lot work ahead of you, in order to bring back love and happiness into your life. It is only normal that if you are consumed with fear that your passion, love, and libido will suffer as a result.
G, life can be wonderful, full of love, and uplifting, if you allow it. The choice is yours --- Love (Life), or Fear (No Life), there is no in-between.
Get some help now --- work on yourself. Tell your girlfriend what is going on with you -- be honest, and confide with her.
There are many great book suggestions on my web site. I would strongly recommend, The Mastery of Love, & The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz.
I would add that true love is the ability to expose one's vulnerabilities to our love ones -- here lies the gateway to the soul. We should have no fear of exposing this to our love ones.
Good Luck. Get some help -- one on one.
Paul Mauchline,
The Art of Loving Institute
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