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Question:
I'm not sure if I'm supposed to be writing to this e-mail address asking
about advice, but I need some. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 2
years. When it comes to sex, he does everything, anything, and is willing
and always searching to find new ways to spice our sex life. My problem is
that even though I'm always willing to try something new, I can't go down on
him. I never did go down on him since we've been together. I tried to do it
a couple of weeks ago, but I just physically couldn't do it. I don't know
what my problem is. I want to do it, but something doesn't let me jump over
the fence, so to speak. I want to be able to please him in this way, but I
think I need some sort of coaching or ways to get more comfortable with
having my mouth on or near his penis. If you could give me any advice, it
would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks
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With anything in life -- you have to overcome your fear. What you are experiencing is very common -- don't fret -- you are not alone.
I might suggest that you search the Internet or your local bookstore for articles on; "Fellatio" or what is commonly known as, "Blow Job". Please check back on my web site in mid September, as I will have a number of new articles in the sex section pertaining to oral sex. In the meantime I would follow this course of educating yourself about the joys of oral sex. Trust me there is nothing more intimate and sexually arousing when both partners engage in oral sex -- especially at the same time. I might suggest you experiment with a dildo -- even a banana or Popsicle will do, for some practice sessions. You may want to add whip cream, chocolate sauce; whatever turns you on-- to make it more enjoyable. I am sure your boyfriend will not mind. Use your imagination -- get over your fear; and most importantly have fun.
Paul Mauchline,
The Art of Loving Institute
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