Art of Loving Advice
Question:
I wanted to ask a few simple questions about my relationship. I have been
with the same woman for about 9 months. We recently found out that she is
going to have our first baby. We have always had the best of times together.
but here recently she seems to firmly believe that I am cheating on her. I
have no clue what to do. We fuss over this same subject all the time. I just
want her to know how to tell her I am faithful and always will be I am
spooked that I cant convince her and she will be gone.
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Your girlfriend's lack of trust is certainly of concern -- especially since you are starting a family together. There is no room for lack of trust in a relationship. The corner stone of a loving relationship is trust. "How do you tell her that you are faithful, and always will be??" Sit her down -- hold her hands -- look into her eyes, and tell her. Tell her how this makes you feel, this lack of trust she has for you. I would have to question why she feels this way. Have you been unfaithful in the past? Has she had prior lovers that have been unfaithful to her? You need to get to the root of the problem. Maybe it something from childhood that is bringing these feelings of insecurity and trust.
I would strongly recommend you get busy and start communicating with her. Please consider seeking some professional help from a therapist or counsellor, as a couple, to help deal with these issues. If you truly love this woman -- you will act now.
Paul Mauchline,
The Art of Loving Institute
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