Art of Loving Advice
Question:
I'm dating someone who has a child from a prior relationship. I am really
having a hard time accepting her relationship with her daughter's family. It
seems to bother me when she is around them and it has taken a toll on our
relationship. I have recently realized that I should not put her under this
pressure of having to in the middle of this conflict. I fear that it is too
late to save this relationship. I do not want to lose her. She is under a lot
of pressure from being a single mother and supporting herself economically. How
can I get over this grudge in me in order to make this relationship work, and
how can I convince her that this is going to work? I no I can handle it know
because I realize the importance of this matter and i would one day want to
marry her. Please help I don't want to lose her over this because deep down
we both still have love for one another.
Sincerly, R
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Dear R,
Both you and your lady have a lot of fear going on about her child's other family. There was life before you, and you
certainly cannot remove her family from her life. Be an adult, sorry to be so blunt. If being around them bothers you
and your lady, you have a choice. If you are uncomfortable, then stay away from these situations. Though truly if
you love this women, you should be able to deal with the situation and compromise so that everyone is
comfortable. I may suggest you see a professional individually, and both together as a couple to work these
issues out.
Sit your lady down and tell her honestly how you feel. Put aside that fragile male ego and expose your
vulnerabilities to her. If you truly love one another then you must both be willing to work on this problem to salvage
your relationship and move forward with your lives together as a couple.
I hope I have been of some assistance to you.
Good Luck,
Paul Mauchline
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