Art of Loving Advice
Question:
Hi, i'm from Argentina and I'm 23. I'm with my
girlfriend since June 98 and two weeks ago she broke
up with me cause she says that she doesn't know if whe
wanna go on with me. She's very confuse, she has a lot
of troubles on work, family and she is not happy.
I REALLY REALLY LOVER HER SO MUCH, and I do not want
to sepparate from her, I want to take care of her,
make her happy, listen to her, and love her the rest
of my life, but she doesn't let me. She doesn't wanna
go on with me, but she says that she loves me, that I
the best thing that ever happened to her, and that she
miss me so much, but she doesn't change her mind.
During this 2 weeks she was with 2 other men, she told
me, and it was after me. I'm very mad about it but I
don't care, I want her back. Today we have lunch
together (we still see each other) and she says the
same, and I lie to her and told her that I was seeing
someone, she looks like she was a little jelous and
now I don't know what to do, don't know how or what to
do PLEASE HELP ME SOON!!!!
I Miss her. THANKS!
PS: I know that I'm a grown men to do this but, my
psicologist (it's written the right way?, i mean
shrink, therapy doctor ??) give me a date to March
6th, what I'm going to do till then.
-23
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Dear 23,
I am sorry for the delay in getting back to you. I get many e-mails daily, and I will be quite frank with you, I cannot
answer them all. The purpose of my web site is to provide information, and my knowledge and wisdom through
the articles I have written and placed on my web site.
I will say to you, that you can love her, but you cannot make her happy, and solve all her problems. Big mistake my
friend, for it is when people choose to do things like this for a lover, that it blows up in your face, causing much
emotional trauma. Only she can make herself happy and deal with her problems. All you can do is listen, and help
only if she asks you to help her.
Game playing, telling her you are seeing someone is not acceptable. Love is not a game. If she broke up with
you, seeing her is not going to help the situation, and you are just making yourself crazy. Stop putting yourself
through this hell, and get on with your life without her. If she should choose to come back to you, then it has to be
for the right reasons, not you chasing her back to you. Give yourself some time to grieve the loss of the love you
have for her. Seeing and talking to her, will not allow you to fully end the relationship. One last thought, if she truly
loved you, she would work on the relationship, instead she is playing mind games with you. There is an old
expression, you cannot have all the cake and eat it alone.
I hope I have been of some help.
Good Luck
Wishing you an epic and loving day.
Paul Mauchline
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