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Question:
Help! I love my boyfriend very much. We've been dating for twoyears, living together for about 6 months. We get along really well, and
on the surface our relationship seems perfect. The problem is I'm looking for intimacy and sexual closeness. He doesn't even
understand what this is!! Our sex life is totally one-sided...he even admitted he's "not a giving person sexually." How can I make him
see how important this is? I am starting to find myself internalizing his disinterest--thinking there is something wrong with me.
What should I do?
-H
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Good Day,
You are taking his problem personally.... WRONG!!!!!!!!! stop thinking this way. You have needs that are not being
met, and it is up to him to deal with his problems if he wants to continue in a relationship with you. You boyfriend
needs to start communicating with you and working out his problems. It would appear he could use some
professional help regarding these issues of intimacy with you. Love and intimacy is a two way street, and it is time
he got over any fears and dealt with his problems. Sexual intimacy between lovers is so very important in the
growth of a rising relationship. It is such a beautiful, and fun experiences to share with someone you truly love.
If he is not prepared to work on this with you,then you are going to have to face some reality and make some
difficult choices. Love begins with yourself, and if you are not getting what you need, then you need to be with
someone that will provide that for you. If you don't deal with your feelings and needs, you are just going to create a
lot of bad feelings and resentment with your boyfriend, and your relationship will just get very toxic and end badly.
I hope I have been of some assistance.
Wishing you an epic and loving day.
Paul Mauchline
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