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Question:
I have been with my boyfriend for 4.5 months. Recently we discovered that he has herpes, which we assume he has contracted from
me, without me ever having shown any signs of it. He has always had problems dealing with my past, and that i had a boyfriend for
quite awhile. It makes him feel awkward and uncomfortable when I mention anything about my past. Now with this, he sees it as a
constant reminder of my past (i was unaware that i was a carrier), and we're not sure how to deal with that, or the fact that he has the
symptoms of herpes. My question is: how do we work together to help him get over my past, and not get awkward and weird, and not
dwell on it, and how should we deal with the fact that he has herpes symptoms.
-C
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Hi C,
First of all, are we talking about facial, or genital herpes?
Who is to say that you are the carrier. This virus can stay dormant for years before showing any signs of activity. I
would strongly recommend that the two of you seek medical advice and not be diagnosing the situation. Once you
have done that, there are many resources available to you, to help you deal with this virus.
As for your past, you had a life before your boyfriend, as he did before you. Tell him for me to bury his fragile male
ego and get over it!!!!!! These fears he has now, are certainly not the basis for a loving relationship with you. He
should seek some counseling, and you should consider going together as a couple, if you are serious about
having a long term relationship with one another.
I wish the both of you the best of luck.
Wishing you an epic and loving day.
Paul Mauchline
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