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I am 20 years old and i am 28 weeks pregnant, with my first child. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 years off and on
and we fight all the time. The reason we have problems is that i seem jealous of his bestfriend j that he lives in the same house with. I
tryed to get along but it seems she always takes my boyfriend out and i always get left out. Well the reason i am so jealous is
because they have slept togther before and i am scared that he will sleep with her agian or with someone else. Here is my question is
there any way to save our relationship? I love him so much and he wants to work things out but i am scared of another voilent fight like
we had before. I am not brused but i we did push eachother around. I want it to be like before.
-V
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Dear V,
Physical violence, is not acceptable, under any circumstance. Wake up young lady, there is no excuse for this
behavior. You have a child coming. Do you want to expose your child to violence? Start loving yourself, and get
pro-active with your life. Start loving yourself and stop accepting this behavior now!!!!!
You and your boyfriend need counselling, right now. The only way you are going to get through this together is by
doing the work your relationship needs. You cannot do this yourselves, based on the information you have shared
with me. You have a lot of fear issues with his best friend, which is not healthy. I think you need to have a very open
and honest discussion with your boyfriend and his best friend to resolve your feelings.
V, there is no room for fear in your life, there is only room for love. Start getting busy and get some help. Your
boyfriend ,you say wants to work out things, so start by walking through a therapist doorway, and salvage your
relationship together. If you don't put in the work and effort now, your relationship is sure to fail.
Take the time to read all the articles on my web site, www.artofloving.com You will not get the knowledge and
answers from reading one article, book, or web site. With love, it is a lifetime of learning.
Good Luck.
Wishing you an epic and loving day.
Paul Mauchline
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