Art of Loving Advice
Question:
I am facing a huge emotional problem,the story is about a girl
that i only knew a litle....she had a boyfriend that is realy a bad
guy im not saying that out of anger or jeolusy this guy is satan in a
human form......he is hated by everyone even his best friend that i
dislike forgot about him and stopped talking to him because of his
rude,impolite and uncivilized way.this boyfriend is nothing but a lying
asshole .the point is she broke up with him because of his shit.....then
i knew her...we discoverd that we have in common more then anyone
else....she was like the feminine side in me.....we both fell in love..i
m positive 100%. We went out a lot in just 2 weeks....we talked about
everything even her ex.... she told so many things about him that
she dislikes and that she l never go back to him ever...
we decided to have a relatonship...and she told me that it is
possible... a week later i was shocked to know that she came back to
him.......i diden t talk to her for 2 month she called and i acted as i
wasen t there......once she called and we got in a fight about trust and
stuff and it diden t lead to anything..another time i found her on the
net and she began a conversation that ended in that she misses me
and"not very happy and not that sad"with her bf. the point is i m sure
she loves me.but not sure as a boyfrien or best friend...my theory is
that a boyfriend should be in the same time a bestfriend....i mean ,,we
held hands and talked about stuff that she never talked about with her
bf...how the hell did she get back to him.
he recently knew about my relashonship with her...he feels somthing is
wrong...he is frustrated about douting that she loves me..altough she
hasen t told him a hing about us....and i m sure that she did not use me
at that time...those 2 weeks that i l never forget.
ps: we talk in secret without him knowing that we do
MY QUESTION IS HOW CAN I WINNER BACK.....HOW CAN I BECOME LOVED AS A
BOYFRIEND INSTEAD OF JUST A FRIEND IF IT S THE CASE.
WHAT TO DO...I M GOING NUTTS....I LOVE HER MORE THEN ANYTHING.
k
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Dear K,
First of all, none of us have the right to judge another person. You are judging your friend's boyfriend, and in my
opinion this is not right. If you dislike this person, then you must remove yourself from the situation.
The young lady in question must make her own decisions, and decide who she wants to be with in a relationship.
She cannot have both of you, if that is her desire in fact. Her flip flopping back in forth is not healthy for anyone in
this drama. She must make a choice and stick to it.
All you can do is once more tell her how you feel about her, and then let her make the choice, and accept her
decision if she chooses to continue with her boyfriend. If this happens you must get on with your life, for there are a
lot of nice women in the world for you to meet. Love yourself K, and stop allowing this lady to play with you. If she
truly wants to be with you she has to get over any fears about the other man and move forward with you.
I hope this has been of some assistance.
Good Luck.
Paul Mauchline,
The Art of Loving Institute
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