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- Question:
Help! I love my boyfriend very much. We've been dating for twoyears, living together for about 6 months. We get along really well, and
on the surface our relationship seems perfect. The problem is I'm looking for intimacy and sexual closeness. He doesn't even
understand what this is!! Our sex life is totally one-sided...he even admitted he's "not a giving person sexually." How can I make him
see how important this is? I am starting to find myself internalizing his disinterest--thinking there is something wrong with me.
What should I do?
-H Advice
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I'm head over heals in like with a friend of mine, but he doesn't really seem
interested. Now I know you can't force anybody to like you, but i was hoping
that maybe you had some advice on how to get his attention and at least try to
make something of this friendship.
-B Advice
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I really like this one guy, and apparently he likes me as well, however
whenever I talk to him, I feel like I'm trying to converse with a brick wall,
its terrible. we made a date to go to the movies, and I almost had to force
the kid to choose a theater, he's so unpredictable sometimes! help me!
-L Advice
- Question:
I enjoy reading your advice page. I was wondering if you can help me with my current situation. I have been
dating a man for about five months. He owns his own company and right now, with the Internet industry
collapsing, he is under severe pressure to keep his business alive. We had three fantastic months together and I
believed at the time, that we were meant for each other. However, his business has become a priority and he has
faced possible bankruptcy, lay offs etc. I want to support him through all this, however he has become so stressed
that we rarely can enjoy each other without talking about the traumas of work. He recently suggested we put our
relationship on hold until he solidifies the direction of his business.
It's been two months now, and he's still struggling and now says that we should be friends and that I should move
on because he does not want to burden anyone with his troubles. I do not want to lose him and am willing to help
him through this tough time. However, he is a very independent man and I believe that he doesn't necessarily
need a women for support. I am sad because the traumatic events in his business have occurred too early in our
relationship and I think I've lost the one man I truly felt close to.
Since we ended our relationship due to external factors, what are the chances of us being together in the future?
Should I move on and date or be loyal and stand by his side? What is the best thing I can do for him?
Also, do you think he is sincere is saying that the reason we had to end our relationship is because he does not
want to put me through more troubles and worries about his business? He also says that he doesn't think he can
make me truly happy...I disagree. What does all this add up to?
Thanks so much for helping me in this situation. Looking forward to your response.
Signed, #2 Priority
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- Question:
Hi,
I need alot of help because i can't get myself to talk to this girl i really really like in my art class at school. I really
want to go out with her, but she barely knows me. But im too afraid to go up to her because im afraid ill do
something wrong. Can you please help me and give me ideas on what i can do. Thank you so much! -J PS: Im
16 years old, shes the same age as me and same grade.
Advice
- Question:
I'm not sure if this is the kind of thing you handle but I
need some advice. My name is M and I am 21 yrs
old, I still live with my mother and I have been with my boyfriend
for almost 4 years, his name is J. The problem is that my mother
cannot stand him, I don't understand why because he is very good
to me, he takes me out, he does everything I ask him to and he is
very faithful to me, he's even great to my mother, he paid for her
divorce and paid almost all our bills for 6-8 months so my mother
wouldn't have to work for a while. After that she finely found a
job and after her car got repoed he took her to work everyday in
his brand new car and never once asked or received any money for
gas. He even take's her out with us sometimes. She does say very
hateful things about him and it hurts me very bad, I've told J
the things she says about him and it hurts him but it still helps
her anyway. I'm telling you all this to help you understand my
problem so that maybe you can help me. About 2 yrs ago we decided
to get married and we started to plan the wedding and we stared
buying things and we didn't tell my mother right away, well one day I came
home a little late and she was upset and we started arguing and
one thing lead to another and I told her, then she started crying
and telling me how much I was hurting her and I was making the biggest
mistake of my life, then a little later she told me that she wanted
to be a part of it and we could live with her for a while until
we got through with school and saved some money, then about a month
later she said that we couldn't live there and she never wanted to see
me ever again, at least while I was with him. So I thought it would be
best if I just called the whole thing off, so I did and now here I am.
J and I have been talking about it and we feel that its time for
us to take the next step in our relationship, one we should have
taken a long time ago, anyway I just don't know the best way to
go about telling my mother and I was wondering if you had any
advice for me, I would be very grateful. If you need to know
anything else please feel free to ask, I really need someone's
help. Thank You for your time.
M Advice
- Question:
im facing a huge emotional problem,the story is about a girl
that i only knew a litle....she had a boyfriend that is realy a bad
guy im not saying that out of anger or jeolusy this guy is satan in a
human form......he is hated by everyone even his best friend that i
dislike forgot about him and stopped talking to him because of his
rude,impolite and uncivilized way.this boyfriend is nothing but a lying
asshole .the point is she broke up with him because of his shit.....then
i knew her...we discoverd that we have in common more then anyone
else....she was like the feminine side in me.....we both fell in love..i
m positive 100%. We went out a lot in just 2 weeks....we talked about
everything even her ex.... she told so many things about him that
she dislikes and that she l never go back to him ever...
we decided to have a relatonship...and she told me that it is
possible... a week later i was shocked to know that she came back to
him.......i diden t talk to her for 2 month she called and i acted as i
wasen t there......once she called and we got in a fight about trust and
stuff and it diden t lead to anything..another time i found her on the
net and she began a conversation that ended in that she misses me
and"not very happy and not that sad"with her bf. the point is i m sure
she loves me.but not sure as a boyfrien or best friend...my theory is
that a boyfriend should be in the same time a bestfriend....i mean ,,we
held hands and talked about stuff that she never talked about with her
bf...how the hell did she get back to him.
he recently knew about my relashonship with her...he feels somthing is
wrong...he is frustrated about douting that she loves me..altough she
hasen t told him a hing about us....and i m sure that she did not use me
at that time...those 2 weeks that i l never forget.
ps: we talk in secret without him knowing that we do
MY QUESTION IS HOW CAN I WINNER BACK.....HOW CAN I BECOME LOVED AS A
BOYFRIEND INSTEAD OF JUST A FRIEND IF IT S THE CASE.
WHAT TO DO...I M GOING NUTTS....I LOVE HER MORE THEN ANYTHING.
K Advice
- Question:
Hello there. I have recently started dating an old boyfriend. We only
went out for a couple weeks 2 years ago, but we never stopped fooling
around. Everytime we were together I thought that he would finally want
to get back together. It never happened and we stopped all contact for
about a year. He's back in my life now and he wants to start dating. Is
it possible that he's changed or am I making a mistake by giving him
another chance? - C Advice
- Question:
This is my first step to really finding out what's going to happen with my relationship. I am in desperate need of help. My boyfriend and I have been dating seriously for almost 4yrs. We've lived together for 3yrs now and we each have kids from previous relationships. I've been divorced for almost 5yrs and do not plan on getting married anytime soon or having children. I'll be 34yrs old soon and I feel like I'm just not happy anymore. Our relationship had been going full speed up until about 6months ago. We did everything together. Sex was never an issue. We both mentioned to eachother many times how much we satisfy each other. I devoted all of my time to my relationship and making sure my kids and his son worked well together and it was going so well. It appears that the last 6months he's been doing alot of things with his friends. Going out to Strip Clubs, staying out late, leaving during the evening when I get home from work for any reason. Our sex life has taken a big nose dive and I want all of that back. The man I fell in love with is no longer here. He doesn't consider his family a top priority. On an average he goes out 4 times a week. He's mentioned to me lately that he's allowed a private life. I'm not quite sure what that means, but I always had the idea of a committed relationship to be as ONE. He's changed drastically and I'm afraid he's going to lose not only me, but his son as well. Please help me. I'm tired of arguing and begging for attention. I don't want to do anything that I may regret. Maybe there's hope for us? I'd just like some advice. Thank you, C Advice
- Question:
I want to ask a
special person out. We have known each other for some time now. We are
good friends and we go out as friends but I want more. How do I go about
asking her to be more? I don't want to ruin the friendship that we have.
Thanks, V
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