Art of Loving Advice
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i have a problem that i wanted some advice on. i like this guy who i've been very close friends with for several years. we talk every day, but i dont get to see him much this past year since he's moved. the past few times ive seen him, he's gotten 'friendly'. he acts like he really wants to see me, but whenever i bring up the topic of visiting, he gets all edgy and defensive, and claims he doesnt have time. is he just putting it off because he doesnt want to see me, or is it something else?
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I need you advice on something very serious in my life right now. I have been dating this guy for 6 years now (his is also my first boyfriend and lover) and his has started to talk about getting married next year. We are compatible in every way possible, except when it comes to affection and sex. He has never been the public affection type of guy and in the first couple of years of our relationship, he surprises me with sudden soft touches, kisses, and initiate sex until the last two years when he started to be more quickly tired and treat sex with less interest. (He says because he is growing older and losing hair, etc...) On the other hand, I have grown to deeply love making out. Althought, most the time he would shoot before I can. Our making out session usually lasts 3 minutes max (including the short foreplay).
In the last couple of weeks, I have asked him to have more than the usual 30 second foreplay before we make-out, and to surprise me like he use to years ago. ... Sadly, I wait, and nothing... I feel miserable having to always jester his hands to start all the time ... and when I tell him I want him to go down, he says that he is a very hygenic person and cannot do that, but occassionally will want me to go down for him.
Lately I have been very sad (and will cry unexpectantly), and he knows it too. He says that I ask for too much. I want to have an exciting sex life with him. I don't know if there is something wrong with me. Am I craving too much for sex while he isn't (as much)? Is having sex three times a week too much to ask for? I love this guy very much, but I have to admit that our sex life is not as exciting as I wish it to be. What should I do?
Can my high sex-drive be reverse to be compatible with his? (if yes, how?) I am terrified that my greed to have that "inner-satisfication" may end our long relationship. Please help!!
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I'm not sure if I'm supposed to be writing to this e-mail address asking
about advice, but I need some. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 2
years. When it comes to sex, he does everything, anything, and is willing
and always searching to find new ways to spice our sex life. My problem is
that even though I'm always willing to try something new, I can't go down on
him. I never did go down on him since we've been together. I tried to do it
a couple of weeks ago, but I just physically couldn't do it. I don't know
what my problem is. I want to do it, but something doesn't let me jump over
the fence, so to speak. I want to be able to please him in this way, but I
think I need some sort of coaching or ways to get more comfortable with
having my mouth on or near his penis. If you could give me any advice, it
would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks
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I wanted to ask a few simple questions about my relationship. I have been
with the same woman for about 9 months. We recently found out that she is
going to have our first baby. We have always had the best of times together.
but here recently she seems to firmly believe that I am cheating on her. I
have no clue what to do. We fuss over this same subject all the time. I just
want her to know how to tell her I am faithful and always will be I am
spooked that I cant convince her and she will be gone.
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I am in need of help my girlfriend and me broke up a week ago because our relationship wasn't working out we didn't talk at all partly because I was afraid to talk I was afraid I was going to say something really stupid and she then was going to think I am really dumb well this is the problem I really like this girl alot she means the world to me and is such huge part of my life we broke up because of silly old rumors and we both still like each but see I never really knew this girl while we were goin out can you please give me some advice on how I can go and get to know her better so I can talk to her better and maybe we can make this relationship happen after all.
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I am having a difficult time with insecurity. My boyfriend is a wonderful
man who treats me well. He has many friends, including females friends.
Even though I try not to let my insecurities shine through, my boyfriend has
mentioned to me that I have to become more confident in our relationship and
in myself. I agreed.
I have vowed to myself that I am going to try very hard to overcome this
terrible feeling as I know it is something that could eventually destroy our
relationship if it doesn't't stop. However, I guess what my question is, is
where do I draw the line with what is reasonably acceptable behaviour in our
relationship and what is not?? He feels comfortable inviting his female
friends over to spend the night on weekends. I mean, having friends of the
opposite sex is one thing, (I have "guy" friends), but should it be
acceptable to me if he invites them over to spend the night? I know this is
something I personally would not do myself, but he is not me. This has
become an issue with us a couple of times and very likely to come up again
in the future.
What should I do or shouldn't do? Even though I'm uncomfortable with this,
should I just welcome his "single" female friends to come spend the night
with us on the weekends and try to accept this? I want our relationship to
work, and I am going to try very hard, however, to what extent am I
supposed to accept these sort of things...and when do I have the right to
say, I don't feel comfortable with this?
Please help!
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