EDITOR'S MESSAGE
 
Our Editor explores The Power of Words
 

 
Paul Mauchline, Director
The Art of Loving Institute
 
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April, 2001
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Feb., 2001
Valentine's Day
 
Dec., 2000
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Sept, 2000
The Importance of Gratitude
 
June, 2000
The Lessons of Love are the Greatest Gifts we can give Ourselves and Others
 
April, 2000
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Dec, 1999
Millennium Message from The Art of Loving
 

December 2000
 
My Dear Friends,
 
For the past month my thoughts have been focused on, The Power of Words. A phrase comes to mind right now, " The pen is mightier then the sword". I would have to agree with that quote based on the letters of appreciation I receive on this web site. The words of this web site are read, and it is through these words I provide knowledge about love and relationships to the world. This is a very positive affirmation to all the contributing writers of this site, including myself. Our written words are certainly a better method of promoting the importance of love to the world. I could not see any of us going around with a big stick to convey our messages. On the flip side of the coin there are many things written in the world today that are negative, harmful, and just plain pollution to people's minds. It is all around us each and every day, and in my opinion these words are just like using a sword on people's minds.
 
Moving on in my thoughts about The Power of Words, we come to the spoken word. We human beings have a unique gift... the ability to speak through words to communicate. No other creature on this earth has this truly remarkable ability that we take for granted most of the time. This is a very powerful ability we all possess, and it is what makes words so powerful.
 
Actions speak louder then words. Today I would have to say that words speak louder then actions. Through our words we have the ability to express love, and we also have the ability to express anger, hate, resentment, judgment, and the list goes on, but what it boils down to is the expression of fear through our words.
 
If we cut our finger it will heal over a short period of time. If we break a limb, again we will heal over time. When it comes to harmful words though, healing is not so quick. The tongue is sharper then the sword, and each day the words of others hurt so many people. These harmful words go deep into the mind and soul, and can cause a lifetime of damage to the party that was inflicted by them. Here are some phrases I have heard over the past month.
 
You are stupid.
You are ugly.
You are bad.
I hate you.
I don't love you.
You dress like a slob.
You are fat.
 
These are just a few of the many phrases I have heard directed at another person. These types of words are more damaging then cutting off someone's limbs. Stored in someone's mind, they can cause a lifetime of fear and anguish.
 
I live in a small Caribbean island community, and as common in all communities in the world, there is a lot of gossip. My Mom corrected me one day and said Paul, " It is not gossip, it is an exchange of information." Well our little community exchanges a lot of information. I have described it to so many as one very long string with a lot of tin cans. The words of gossip are rampant here as they are all over the world, with many harmful and toxic words being spoken about others. People gather around and literally become, judge, jury and executioner of some unsuspecting soul. Why do we judge others? Why do we harm someone with our words? In my humble opinion...if you have nothing good to say about someone...say nothing.
 
On Thanksgiving Day I read for probably the fourth time one of my favorite books called, The Four Agreements. One of author, don Miguel Ruiz, four agreements is as follows.
 
Be Impeccable With Your Word
 
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
 
All of us around the world today should sit quietly and meditate on don Miguel's Powerful Words.
 
The Power of Love is The Power of Words. The Power of Words should not be used to create, hurt, suffering and fear in another human being. Maybe we all need to consider a very simple thought today, and that is, think before you speak.
 
Wishing you an epic and loving day from The Turks & Caicos Islands
 
Paul Mauchline
 

 
Five years ago Paul Mauchline launched an in depth North American phase of research into,"LEARNING TO KEEP LOVE IN YOUR LIFE." His new dynamic workshop series, The Art of Loving ™, promises to help you learn the skills you need to succeed in a lasting, loving relationship.
 
He is the founder and director of The Art of Loving Institute based in Providenciales, Turks & Caicos, British West Indies.
 
"I'm a researcher, writer, and speaker -- not an accredited counselor or therapist. The purpose of my life's work has been to get people to recognize that LOVE TAKES KNOWLEDGE & EFFORT. The purpose of my articles, soon to be released book, and workshop series is to provide a foundation of skills that will open doors to establish and enhance a more loving attitude towards oneself and others."
 
"THE ART OF LOVING WORKSHOP PROVIDES THE FOUNDATION FOR BUILDING A MORE PASSIONATE AND COMMITTED LOVING LIFE."