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What better way to unleash the animal in you.
By Ladyfire Editor Debora Myers

I just couldn't resist the subject of The French Kiss! I hardly think the French invented it. I imagine we have been doing it since the beginning of time, when it comes down to basics; we are only a cognitive soul in an animal body. Some people may have an aversion to tongue kissing, but I can't imagine a life without the wet, delicious, sensual communication of erotic intent. What better way to unleash your animal than to slowly work your way to the ultimate with your lover?

French Kissing is one of the most exciting acts you can share before engaging in direct sexual contact. If you want to know if your prospective new lover is good in bed, before you find yourself let down in the bedroom, make sure to kiss them deeply. If your prospective lover is awkward, and your sexual chemistry doesn't flow at this point, I can bet the sex will be a big disappointment as well. Most women of experience will tell you that they undoubtedly never make it to the next level of sexual intimacy if he isn't a good kisser.

Ok, you're not ready to give up on him yet. He/she has so many other qualities that turn you on. How can I teach him to be a better kisser? If the chemistry is wrong-don't waste too much time trying to get him to get it right, but it can't hurt to give him a few lessons, sometimes practice makes perfect.

Make sure you are both comfortable and relaxed. Show him what you want him to do by example-by taking the lead and kissing him first. If he's unsure of himself -he will mimic you. Bite his bottom lip and suck it. Encircle his lips with your tongue. Flirt and tease him by flitting just the tip of your tongue just past his lips, then as she/he loosens up push your tongue deeper into your lover's mouth. Suck their tongue into your mouth. Pull away and tease him again and kiss his neck working your way to his mouth for more instructions! If things are progressing how you want-you may reward him by sucking and licking his finger/s. Pull his hand to your mouth and show him what your capable of!

Don't forget to touch his face enticingly and run your fingers through his hair or over his head. This will make him feel endeared and special. As your lover becomes excited he should be less inhibited and more apt to follow his bodies impulses. If not, and he just can't relax enough to tune into you, you may want to rethink going any further. If he can't be comfortable enough with himself and his sexuality to handle an intimate kiss- just think what he'd be like in more intimate sexual positions.

Remember that a good sexual connection is not everything in a relationship, but honestly, I can't imagine being in a lover's relationship without it! It is the glue that can hold a relationship together through thick and through thin. So take a deep breath, lick your lips, and kiss him deeply- before you get naked and take your time before hopping into bed with someone-you're worth the wait. And remember to thank heaven for the French Kiss!

This article is written by Debora Myers, Editor-In-Chief ofLadyfire, the award-winning community for modern women. Featuring: Literature, romance and love stories, articles of empowerment, inspiration, women's issues, health, self-esteem, advice, horoscopes, chat and stellar recipes. Visit Ladyfire at http://www.ladyfire.com

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