Ok, now you're feeling better and more energized because you've been
taking better care of yourself. No more guilt trips, no more over-doing
it…but your mate isn't following your lead and has been a stickler
to be around. At home I'd use another adjective but will refrain from
my earthier descriptions in consideration of our more ladylike sisters.
He's grumpy and short-tempered and the last person you'd want to be
intimate with. That does pose a problem. How do you get him to mellow
out and be responsive to your passionate longings? He isn't going to
be the initiator of love when he's grumpy and stressed. You will have
to be the dominant one. If dominant makes you feel uneasy how about
the "leader."
Follow the Leader-
Let's face it. Were just thinking creatures that mimic one another.
Look at fashion, religion, the way we speak…everything we do
is a mimic of another, only from different angles.
Take the lead.
Nurture him with kind words and take the extra time to be thoughtful.
Soften him up. It may take a day or two…
Surprise him in
the shower. While he's in the hot water, all relaxed and warm, slip
in with him and scrub his back. Rub him down good with your soapy
hands, and rub your body against his. Tell him how beautiful he is
and that you love looking at him. Everyone loves to hear that!
After he's clean,
and you've sufficiently teased him, dry him off with the towel. Make
sure to rub him down vigorously all over, it will help to stimulate
his circulation and will feel really good to him. Don't forget to
dry between his toes and his jewels (being gentler with those of course,
you want him to feel treasured)…. Make sure you are totally naked
while doing this, as you are rubbing him down you will be jiggling
in all the right spots and guys being guys, well they like to see
you jiggle. His mood should be improving by now…
Take him into
the bedroom and gently push him to the bed and lock the door. Turn
on the clock radio if necessary (so he won't be inhibited by the kids
hearing him moan…) Continue telling him how much you love him
and how wonderful he is as you go down on him. Now, shy little or
big sis, whatever, do not be inhibited by the next set of instructions.
He will love it, so get over being embarrassed and just know that
he's going to be de-grumped by the time you're finished with him.
Make sure his
head is propped with the pillows -- he needs to have a good view.
Straddle him so that you are facing his feet, with your rear and flower
right in his face! The 69 position, but don't quite let him get to
your flower yet. You just want him to watch. He's going to want you
- sooooooooooooooo badly by the time you've followed these sextructions.
Position yourself so that he can see your lovely flower but also so
that he can get a view underneath you to watch your breasts moving
and so he can watch as you give him head. Make sure to let your breasts
touch him once in a while…
Now, focus your
attention on his genitals and thighs. Lick him all over and then give
him head. Spend most of your time teasing his helmet, but once in
a while take his entire shaft, (or as much as you possibly can) but
just enough to make him crazy. You want to tease him for quite a while.
Don't let him touch you at this point. You want to torture him. Smack
his hands if he tries to grab, stroke or finger you. (He's gonna try,
so make sure to tell him that he has to wait. That you want him to
focus entirely on the show and his pleasure.) You can also touch yourself
enticingly, show him a little more…but don't bring him to the
exploding point yet. You want him to connect with you and your heart,
not your rear-view.
Give him at the
very least 2o or so minutes of this or until your back…gives
out. Then turn to face him, straddle him again and rub your yoni against
his shaft until he starts to beg, than plunge down on top of him.
If you start the motion immediately he most likely will explode, depending
on how long you gave him head. You also want to make a deeper connection
and can do so by just looking passionately into his eyes as he is
inside you. Kiss him on the mouth, tease his lips with your tongue
and don't let him thrust. Just clamp down on him with your body weight
and pin him down.
Then, before you
get tired, or a backache, or whatever, love him for all you're worth!
You should be so excited by now that you come immediately too. But
this one was really for him. Sometimes we need to give, in order to
get. Don't just wait around for him to give you the treatment. While
your laying together and he is telling you how great that was, how
much he loves you…you can suggest he show you next time!
Debora Myers is
a writer, editor, and co-founder of:
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